Thursday, April 2, 2015
Our spaceship is locked in an orbit around the sun repeating our opportunity to get our story right.
Wednesday, March 11, 2015
For me, one example of an issue I have with trusting people is with those who we are supposed to trust at fixing our vehicles. I believe that I have experienced, on repeated occasions, where a vehicle has gone in for servicing and in the weeks that followed that vehicle experienced new problems that before the visit did not exist. This just happened to me again, and I fixed the problem myself but I am becoming very suspicious about tampering. Now, I don't trust them and I am looking for a new garage for my vehicles. I find this problem pervasive in so many areas of my life. Do I have trust issues or are people less deserving of trust?
Transactions or Performances?
Things in our lives that should be merely transactional, and based on quantitative objective information, can quickly become subjective, shrouded in colourful drama that evokes emotions and behaviours.
A simple example to illustrate. You go to the store and you can choose between two kinds of coffee. They both have a packaging designed to make you choose their brand. For the sake of this example, lets say that the product inside is virtually identical but one brand is 20% more money than the other brand. The more expensive brand's package sells a coffee "experience" that tells you that it is the best for waking up in the morning and so you choose that brand. In reality, you got the same coffee but paid 20% more based entirely on an emotional response to advertising, not a real difference.
This is a small example but it's part of our problem in that we cannot trust the company to be truthful in their information to us. Instead of truth, the company appeals to our preferences to choose based on comfort.
I point the finger at a commercial organization here but it occurs at the individual level regularly too.
The employee who comes in late and says they will make up the time. You trust them to do it so you don't watch their every move but they may not make up the time. The buddy who you help out who says he will repay you the favour but seems to always be busy when you need it returned. The neighbour who says they will watch your house while you are away on vacation and quickly takes in your mail and flyers from your bursting mailbox on the morning before your return. We continually disrespect trust relationships with others for our own comfort by creating the illusion that we are making good on our commitment to truth.
Fictions (aka untruth that entertains us) have become a vital part of financial wealth accumulation. As consumers and employees in the marketplace what we accept for comfort is vital to the ease with which those in power can increase their wealth. Making promises of your comfort, so you will sacrifice your time or money, taking little in return is how the game is played. We are't stupid though, we know the deal is not in our favour for either payment for our time or goods/services received in exchange for our money. We can be quite focused on participating in the fiction though because no one wants to admit that they let themselves be taken in and have become part of the fraud. No one wants to admit that they knowingly let themselves be screwed and the effort required to fight back can be time consuming.
This reality, that we are required to trust people with our stuff, our money and our well being, is a real issue today. Why is it an issue?
- people are taking your money by abusing that trust and over charging you, making bad investments, or playing with your money.
- people are causing us fear and anxiety with scenarios that should be transactional.
- people pray upon those fear and anxieties to sell you things/services you don't need
- people are playing with information to create an emotional response to gain power or position that affects you.
- people are leveraging your desire for that comfort so that you accept a fiction as truth and move on.
- etc, etc.
Thursday, February 26, 2015
Living vicariously through others.
If we choose to experience our pleasure or entertainment through watching someone else in a role, in a game, a race, etc, etc we can cheer them on and celebrate with them when good things happen. It's a very exciting premise to be a part of their good times, advertures and drama.
However, when that character is killed off, that player starts to lose their age, driver no longer wins or any other number of problems with continuing success we do not have to be part of their downfall or failure. We can detach ourselves from this "person" that we have aligned ourselves with and move onto another.
On the flip side, if we take on an endeavour ourselves, building up to that positive result is hard work, scary and challenging to us. Worse yet, if it doesn't go well we feel the pain and discomfort of it not going well.
Whether it's a quest for knowledge, learning new skills, building, competing, playing, walking, etc, etc there are a million different activities that a person can participate in and they can all go well, or go badly.
When success is achieved it's much more powerful for us than being a viewer into that success and if failure does occur, while painful, we get the full learning experience from that failure.
Sadly, I think the situation gets worse with time.
The longer we go on living through fictional characters, celebrities, sports figures and the like, the more likely we are to lose our physical and mental edge that would help us maintain confidence in the face of challenge when taking on experiences ourselves. Our comfort zone reduces and things that should not freighten us do resulting in an experience tainted with negativety because our expectations for the experience were not based on reality, but rather someone's reality.
By living vicariously through others too much, we become less of a participant and more of a viewer until the day we die when we can only say that our life was spent in employment to pay for the privledge of watching others participate in life.
I would continue to say that while much of our society would argue that financial wealth is the greatest achievement to strive for I think the "have nots" are actually missing out more on life experiences than on wealth. It has become a social norm to entertain oneself primarily through viewing others engaged in something. Whether it's real people or characters in a show, movie or video game it's extremely common to have this lifestyle of viewing as where the most time is spent.
I don't understand.
I quest for knowledge, experiment, experience and expression so much so that I really don't know what is going on in pop culture. I don't know what's "good" on TV these days or which movies are doing well at the box office and I don't bing watch on Netflix. The result is I am unable to participate in conversations around the "water cooler" but that doesn't make me sad.
What makes me sad is that it seems to be harder to find people who can talk about science, making, building, the arts, society, history, etc, etc.
What kind of world will my children find themselves participating in as adults? Will anyone talk about real life or will that be saved for a small portion of society running the system that we are contained within?
Thanks for reading.
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Wednesday, February 25, 2015
- Educate ourselves on how we are the same
- Build opportunities for learning, leisure, arts and activities that help us grow into peoples who see important values in people beyond our appearances and cultural practices.
- Celebrate the colour in our appearances and practices as things that make the world more interesting.
Saturday, January 17, 2015
I truly believe that one way for us to learn to understand each other is to share common space together regularly.
Important common spaces like parks and libraries are so crucial to embrace both nature, knowledge and the human experience together.
Thursday, January 8, 2015
Both of my kids are preparing for the science fair and I wish I was doing my own project.
I was thrilled to be helping them come up with ideas for what their science fair projects could be.
It felt so good to be curious about the world and to discover that not every question that I had was immediately answered by a google query.
Is instructables a science fair?