Wednesday, June 11, 2014

alone we should not be

we achieve a certain amount of preparation in our silent moments to ourselves but it is in our time with others that we truly are able to make a difference in the world.

Wednesday, December 4, 2013


Is there something out there in the world that you feel is owed to you?

Have you "earned" a right to step in line ahead of someone else and claim the prize?

Air travel is a regular part of my work and I love to sit and watch people approach the departure gate in the time before boarding. Occasionally I get a glimpse of someone trying to find a cheaper way to get bumped to the front of the plane. It's hilarious to watch their composure before, during and after their attempt. You can see their posture, facial expression and even how they utilize their wardrobe as they prepare to get what they want, a better lot than the rest of us.

On a recent flight I saw it happen again and it reminded me of my distaste for this facet of our society. Over the years I have met many people who believe that they or or their family has done work, paid money, influenced, etc, etc such that they can benefit above others. What is hilarious though is to find out that behind the scenes, the actual cost of establishing this poise to strike at entitlement ahead of the masses is actually cheaper than one might assume. I have found its more about story telling (sometimes truthfully) than it is about personal sacrifice. Of course those of us sitting on the sidelines assume that they have done something to deserve this privilege but ironically what they have done to deserve it is deceive the rest of us.

I think to wise advice I have heard (apparently from a rich man), that a rich man doesn't stay rich by wasting his money but a fool and his money are soon parted.

Do we sit idly by and watch others claim greater privileges in our world because they are smooth talkers? Do we allow this to happen in our businesses, workplaces, churches, charities, sports events or government? Is it a fair reward for their acting skills?

And yes, in the past I have smooth talked my way into executive class seating, but to be perfectly honest I stopped years ago and I tried to have a conversation with the person next to me and realized, I wasn't one of them.

Monday, February 11, 2013

do I want to be a part of moon shot thinking?

How much of the 6 hours left in my day after the work-sleep-eat-cycle can/should I spend on entertainment?  Well, if you have a family like me you decide to spend quality time with your wife and kids but what do you do with the rest of it?

I understand that we have a great privledge of free time and don't want to waste it. Many people in the world don't get "free" time and many have so much free time but nothing to do in it.

I remember my Grade 8 social studies teacher lamenting to our class about how leisure time will be huge for our generation. He said that we would either end up working in that industry or enjoying it. I remember very few details other than him going on at length several times about the types of activities he thought about. I do remember thinking his vision of my adult future sounded more like summer camp than what my parents were living.

Fast forward to today and where I live in the world I suppose we do have more leisure time than my grand parents did at my age. I am lucky enough to work a day shift, Monday to Friday at a job that is not dangerous that pays well. What I find ironic about our leisure time, compared to the vision my grade 8 teacher had, is how much a screen of some sort is involved. A smart phone, tablet, monitor or TV is a big part of leisure time in society today. We squeeze in "social" time, game time, reading time, movie time, music time and a variety of other screen based pursuits to entertain ourselves. My grade 8 teacher was right about one thing, we entertain ourselves more hours in the week than ever before and more jobs are tied to it than ever before. I don't think he had devices and screens in mind though.

Some of us do spend some of our leisure time in pursuits he had envisioned like golfing, fishing, biking, skiing, etc, etc. Sadly, I am fairly certain that the statistics speak for themselves, the screen dominates. Entertaining ourselves with the screen is a new norm and one that is broadly accepted. A norm that I am trying to reject, but not finding a great deal of will power to do so. My question to myself is how much time should I spend each week on:
  • Time with my wife 
  • Time with my kids
  • Time entertaining myself on a screen
  • Time entertaining myself with reading
  • Time entertaining myself with the arts
  • Time creating new stuff on a screen 
  • Time creating new stuff with tools and materials
  • Time in activities that are fun but also provide exercise
  • Time creating new opportunities for income
  • Time expressing myself through the arts
  • Time learning new mental skills
  • Time learning new physical skills
  • Time in activities that challenge me mentally and physically
  • Time in activities that involve exploring new spaces
  • Time in activities that are building  or contributing to a goal much bigger than my own but that I am passionate to be a part of. 
Now, I know what some of you are thinking. Dude, you think too much! Or yikes man, talk about over analysis. Both statements can at times be true but consider moonshot thinking on a personal scale.

What can I do that contributes to my moonshot? Is it even possible to do so without planing my activities and doing this analysis and deep thought? Can we contribute to our own moon shots by just playing around, having fun, living in the moment and entertaining ourselves?

Monday, January 21, 2013

The Paradox of Our Age by Bob Moorehead

Food for thought

The Paradox of Our Age by Bob Moorehead
“The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but
shorter tempers, wider Freeways, but narrower viewpoints. We spend more,
but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and
smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees
but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more
problems, more medicine, but less wellness.

We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little,
drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too
little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom. We have multiplied our
possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and
hate too often.
We've learned how to make a living, but not a life. We've added years to
life not life to years. We've been all the way to the moon and back, but
have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer
space but not inner space. We've done larger things, but not better things.

We've cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We've conquered the atom,
but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but
accomplish less. We've learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more
computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we
communicate less and less.

These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small
character, steep profits and shallow relationships.

These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but
broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway
morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything
from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the
showroom window and nothing in the stockroom. A time when technology can
bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share
this insight, or to just hit delete...

Remember, to spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not
going to be around forever. Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks
up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave
your side.

Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the
only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn't cost a cent.

Remember, to say, "I love you" to your partner and your loved ones, but most
of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from
deep inside of you.

Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person might
not be there again. Give time to love, give time to speak! And give time to
share the precious thoughts in your mind.” 

The Paradox of Our Age by Bob Moorehead

Friday, December 14, 2012

how is it possible? so many questions.....

I can still remember her beautiful little face in my mind even though it has been months since I saw her with her family at our kid's school. She was a little girl who was very much alive but now she is not. Another victim, another statistic, of violence. She died because a man took a gun into a school and for some strange reason decided to kill innocent people, adults and children.

So tell me, how can this happen in the society that we live in?

How is possible to own a weapon that can do this? You can't kill that many people with a kitchen knife without someone stopping you easily enough. It's only with weapons that are designed to kill people that it can be done. We live in a good decent society, right? So why do we sell weapons that are designed to kill people?

How is it possible that this man decided to kill people? Innocent children? Was there no capacity within his community to support him to deal with whatever brought him to this point? Was there nothing in the community that told the people around him that he needed to talk to someone, to resolve something? We live in a modern caring culture, right? So why do people get to the point where they kill people? 

How is it that if we are a democracy where we supposedly have real opportunity to shape our society and our communities that we still live in a world where this happens?  If citizens are truly shaping our own countries and communities then we must really be a sick people if we have chosen to allow this to happen. Is it greed that is driving our decisions and thus helping each other and making tough decisions is beyond our capacity?

Why do the news headlines not shout of another success for balance, life and happiness? Why do we constantly flirt on the edge of disaster simply reacting for a time when people are hurt? Why do we not plan for our future? We know that if we leave people in a mess that they will spread the mess further. We know that if we let bad business continue to sell bad stuff that people will get hurt. We know that there are a lot of things that are wrong yet they continue.

Why have we let the political system that is our "control" of the democracy become a source of entertainment?

Why do I feel like the real source of the problem behind innocent adults and children dying at the hands of a gunman will not be addressed and I can't trust politicians to set out a course that isn't reactionary? 

I feel so hopeless about the level of violence that exists today.  I know in Canada and United States we are still much safer than in other places of the world but it is so sad that we do not show the world how we can live without violence all together.  We demonstrate to the world that power is through fear and greed is a good motivator.

Oddly enough an event such as the one that has occurred today such that so many children have died has me wishing for magic such that it could just not happen again. Or maybe a science fiction solution where we change the very nature of the air such that bullets no longer work.

This event with people dying at the hands of this man is a reminder to me that we as a society have much to achieve in making the world a safe and wonderful place.

government balance

The slap of contrast once again ‘tween government’s good for loft and for minion, stings the face and appetite wanes. Blind justice is food at the trough of Dominion.

Tuesday, February 7, 2012

working better together to change the world

I have been fascinated by the idea of communal living and the benefits of sharing. Sharing tools with each other and helping to learn new tools and solve problems together. This very concept seems like something that comes from deep within me as if programmed to try to do this.

In real life however, I do not live near the people that are in my circles of connection. In fact my physical neighbours are almost more of a buffer of anonymity than they are human connections that matter to me. Kinda sad when I reflect on it. I have chosen, perhaps without thinking, to choose to not associate with them socially (outside of summer street meetings) for one reason or another, except where very convenient. Of course I do know people who have neighbours that have become friends and their stories are such that I think we too would have found ourselves in good relationships but in our case we have not been so fortunate to find that relationship connection opportunity, yet.

On the other hand, I do have connections with people outside my neighbourhood that are incredibly valuable to my personal development and well being. I do have access to technology that would let me connect with them one-on-one and in groups regularly.

So now the question to myself.

What if you could connect with 9 other people once per week for 30 minutes and in that time 1 person (on rotation) would share with the group a tool/technique/idea that they have learned that helps us to work better together.

Just talk or share image or slides, for up to 30 minutes the show is yours. You can share something you have personally discovered or something you have read or watched, whatever thing that you found to be so interesting or cool that you thought you would want your friends to also see.

Some would say that opportunities to do this in person already exist out there. I would have to agree but I find that I have let my life get too busy to make it comfortable to fit in the extended social gathering that would facilitate the interactions I desire.

Regardless of the how, what or when I think the why is incredible. Why would I want to see this happen for myself? Why would I want 10 men all over the world to meet to discuss ways to work better together.  Not working harder together to make money, fight wars or impose our ideals on others. Working BETTER together in my mind is the Godly challenge of changing the world for the better.  Helping all of us come to terms with how greed is not collaborative. Teaching ourselves that military forces serves only one purpose and that is to justify more military force for them or us. Working to learn to ways to make our paid employment less of a burden on us, our families and our community and make our environment a place filled with love, peace and satisfaction.

There is a place I go to with my family where we find community, work and beauty and it is like a recharge. It is not a private place or an oasis away from people but it is a place where God's creation embraces you and you feel our human history of working poorly together start to pull away from you and be replaced with inspiration that feeds you with the desire to be innovative with each other.

I would like to recreate that feeling of innovative coaching in my weekly routine where I do not have this special place at my disposal.  I would like to be a part of 10 men working to change the world into a better place.